Obedient Wives Club

I know it’s been a long time since I wrote in here. Our lives have just been so hectic with work and I must say he’s getting a bit lenient with me, but I’m still getting spanked almost daily, just that with lesser number of spanks and with less force. I’m sure things will go back to the way it was like before when we both aren’t so consumed with work.

On another note, I’ve been reading about the Obedient Wives Club. It was set up in Malaysia by a club who also believes in Polygamy (a man can have up to 4 wives). They have been facing a lot of criticism. I feel thats its underserving, mainly because they are free to choose what they want. I think our LDD lifestyle is quite similar to the OWC, mainly because both clubs/societies/lifestyles focuses on being submissive. I think our lifestyle takes it one step further though, as it gives men to responsibility to discipline us when we’re not being submissive.

The OWC founders have been getting numerous phonecalls, visits etc by the international press hoping for an interview as well as from the feminists groups and activists. I wonder – when the LDD lifestyle gets found out by the press, would we be facing the same amount of criticism, if not more?

is there a difference between a man and a man of the house?

I was watching Supernanny USA and Jo Frost said this: “now you have to step up and be the man of the house” and it made me think is there a difference between a man and a man of the house?

I was researching a bit on this topic, and couldn’t find any article that could compare the two. so i did a little of my own research and here’s my thoughts:

Yes, there is a difference. Let me show you why: -

A MAN – an adult male

Traits of a man

(1) Physical – Whether competing for food, fighting hand to hand, or challenging each other in the sporting arena, mastery of one’s own physical abilities is an important part of being a man. (2) Functional – a man’s ability and desire to provide for those that depend on him has been central to his masculinity
(3) Sexual –  desire for independence and freedom from the command of others is typically a masculine trait (they go on to explain that a lot of married men often feel compelled to follow thei independence and hence, they advise that before you get married, ensure that you are able to fully commit)
(4) Emotional – “boys don’t cry” although its necessary to have someone they can confide in – a friend, a brother or a mentor
(5) Intellectual – Utilization of reason and logic enable men to view situations objectively and thus respond to them in a rational way
(6) Interpersonal – adopt leadership roles and take the initiative to act on the other’s behalf. Can be in the form of dominant behaviour, supressing the will of others in the name of self-interest.
(7) Other – ambition, pride, honor, competitiveness and a sense of adventure

A MAN OF THE HOUSE

There isn’t a lot of information out there on the man of the house, so I feel that on top of all the traits of a man, they have more expectations around the house.

(1) Keep his house in order
(2) knows the importance of family
(3) Strives to be a role model
(4) Ability to defend his house and his family

But a LDD relationship takes it once step further, it enpowers men to have the authority to discipline when a woman does something that “messes” up the order of the house.

References:

Art of Manliness: http://artofmanliness.com/2008/06/08/7-vital-characteristics-of-a-man/

 

who is mr loving dd?

On C’s blog (rncblog.blogspot.com), she mentions his book so often and seems that he’s been guiding their LDD relationship through his blog. I tried to access his blog, but all I get is an empty page that says mary ellen (http://www.lovingdd.blogspot.com/)? Is the site restricted? And how can I get hold of his book? Does anyone have any idea?

its been almost two weeks!

we’ve been at this for almost two weeks. the last week has been very trying for both of us. i guess we got by the first week because of the excitement of something new. something like a new diet, a new course etc. and within the next few weeks, we start to procrastinate, but thats human nature i guess.

so as i was saying, the last few days have been extremely trying. and there were so many times i wanted to get out of this ldd lifestyle. i just couldnt help throwing a tantrum, and convince myself that i’m allowed to throw a tantrum. but my HOH has been quite patient with me and not given up on this. he says, he has tasted being the dominant one and he loves it. yesterday, was the worse day ever. when i dont get out of the house, my mood becomes horrible. I tried so hard to gain hs attention but he’s busy so doesnt humour me. And i become fustrated with the lack of attention and start throwing a tantrum. and then he says he cant cuddle with me when i’m throwing a tantrum, so i become even more enraged, get punished. and in the end i got spanked 5 times in a day. (about 20 times with the wooden spoon each time). i think he’s going easy on me because we’re both under a lot of pressure because of uni.

Did anyone else feel this way when they were starting out? Or am I just terribly naughty?

anyway, we tried out the wooden spoon. i must say, it hurts a lot when i’m actually getting spanked, but like 5 mins later, it doesnt hurt at all, unlike the cane, where i’m feeling it for a few hours.

Today has been a good day, i haven’t gotten any spanking although i threw a mini fit on the way to uni. but when he came back, he seemed to have forgotten about it. maybe i’m just making it out to be bigger than it is.

When i came home from gym, i saw a couple of packages – one for me and one for him. i bought a family guy dvd from amazon. and was very curious what he bought but controlled my urge to open it. anyway, he did open it in the end, and he bought a loopy johnny. Maybe seeing how nasty it looks made me really good today.

This is the most similar picture i could find on google. It’s a leather one, instead of rope, which is the one C has (rncblog.blogspot.com). Scary right? Anyone out there got spanked with the loopy johhny? Share your experiences with me!

(I’m going to post a separate topic on smthg else, dont want to mix up the two topics!)

a nice lunch out ruined by me misbehaving

This is proving to be very difficult!

We went out for a nice lunch today after uni, and then walked around town to run some errands. He decided to walk one way cause he thought it would be faster. I suggested walking a different way or driving so we would be quicker. And he said that there wouldn’t be parking so we should just walk, and anyway, we had a heavy meal so it would be good to walk to off. I mentioned it again a while later but he said that he already took my suggestion into consideration and I should just drop it.

While walking, I noticed a parking lot near HMV (one of the shops we wanted to visit) and said we should have driven and parked there. He said, that’s the third time I’ve brought it up and I’m going to get it when I get home. Meanwhile, we dropped by Wilkinsons to pick up a wooden spoon, a suggestion from C’s blog (rncblog.blogspot.com) about quieter implements.

On the way home, I tried to get around it, saying it was a constructive suggestion, but to no avail!

When we got home, as we were walking up the stairs, he said you know what to do, and he pointed to a different corner of our house, in the corridor, between his room and my room, and said, stand here.

I was very relunctant about it and unwillingly took off my clothes and stood in the corner, facing a door. From that corner, I could see what he was doing on his computer was quite distracted by it and wasn’t really reflecting. After a while, he came to punish me and I apologised and asked for my punishment. 30 times with the wooden spoon. I thought it wouldnt hurt as much because it looks so small. But it hurts! The impact is harder although the surface area is smaller!

I was a bit unhappy with this while thing, and after a while I started throwing a tantrum again, kicking about, not talking to him. And after two warnings, I got yet another spanking! I refused to do corner time, and squated there instead. Finally pulled myself into the corner and was made to stand there for what felt like ages! Lay across the bed for another 30 spankings with the wooden spoon and 12 more for moving, using my hand to cover and being disobedient initally. my poor butt!

my 1st maintenance spanking

Today I had my first maintenance spanking, 30 paddles with a few mins of corner time (i’m not really sure what i should be reflecting on here). EC thinks that maintenance spankings should be spontaneous and not pre-arranged like how most other LDD couples do it. It should be a form of upkeep when I’m slipping behind and not being submissive enough. But remember how I was talking about being submissive yesterday? Today, even after my maintenance spanking, I don’t feel as submissive as yesterday.

my emotions through the day

I think when people talk about maintenance spanking everyday (when couples start LDD) i used to think it was a bit extreme but i think now i understand the benefits behind it. In the morning, I wake up, and I kinda forget yesterday’s spanking, and sometimes start breaking the rules. After getting a spanking (albeit punishment / disobedience spanking not maintenance), I become slightly sorry for myself and my butt. But after about an hour or so, I become more submissive, loving and feel more demure. Its like there is this new calmness within me.

I think the LDD lifestyle is tough, it’s a lot of self-control, watching what I say and do, but I’m starting to see the merits to it. I was just telling EC that I feel that I used to have this emotional barrier between, very independent and knowing I can just walk away from this relationship without any feeling. But now, I feel that this barrier is slowly breaking down and I feel more connected to him.

While feeling calm and demure after a spanking, I can see things I used to say/do which weren’t nice but EC would just overlook and never say anything up to a point that I just did all these nasty things unconsciously.

We’ve been intimate the past three days, having it slowly and passionately rather than it being hard and fast. It’s a nice change and like I said, I feel more connected to him and it just feels so pure and natural. We still have our kinky side, blindfolds, etc. and it’s always nice to mix things up a little.

EC, I hope you won’t give up on me and keep teaching me, guiding me and loving me. I know these few days I’ve been trying to manipulate my way out of LDD but I think it’s because I’m not used to your new authoritative nature.